For the longest time, I had very specific ideas of a what a perfect guy should be and how a perfect relationship should feel and how my perfect life should look; needless to say as I have grown older, I have realized that perfection is not as easy as the fairytales put it, I cannot just sing to animals and work in the basement while my Prince Charming rides through the woods with a glass slipper looking for me.

Pop culture and peer influences have created in us women very specific and I dare say unrealistic relationship expectations which we pass unto sometimes unsuspecting men who are then pressured into creating a false version of themselves thinking that is what women want and the vicious cycle continues into marriage.

What is perfect? Who is the perfect guy? Are we even perfect ourselves? Who gets to pick what your perfect relationship should be like and why do they get to be experts on what your perfection to be like?

The first thing to know is this: perfect, especially with respect to relationships, is relative! This means, there is no one size fits all in matters of love and life and the first step to liberating yourself is understanding this.

Perfect should be defined by the best possible option or set or circumstances for us. Perfect is what God has designed for us. Sometimes, perfect is not even what we think it is. I guess what we need to do is accept that there is a wisdom that is higher than ours and look to God’s wisdom for guidance and trust His standard of perfection.

God’s ways are higher than ours, His thoughts than ours and He has said he has a plan to bring us to a PERFECT end. Now that sounds perfect to me.

Thought of the week: God is my strength and power, And He makes my way perfect. 2 Samuel 22: 33

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