And so it is okay for everyone to be in a relationship but me. Tope felt like the smile on her face would crack if she held it for much longer, she mumbled something about the ladies and made a not so dignified dash for the restroom. Tonight was a disaster and it was all Toke’s fault!

Happy go lucky Toke who always got all the men falling over themselves to please her, innocent Toke who never toyed with anyone’s emotions and in her words, only attracts amazing people. That same Toke had set up a double date for her and what’s his face again? Some boring guy who could not even have a decent conversation with her and instead, joined in with Toke and Peter’s debate about the movie they just saw!

She didnt hate Toke, Toke was in fact one of her closest friends, but she couldnt help feeling a little jealous at the way Toke always seemed to have life come so easy to her.

Tope, stared at her reflection in the mirror. The face that starred back at her in the mirror was flawless, makeup perfectly done, wavy Argentine hair parted down the middle cascaded down her shoulders and her dress was attractive enough not to be slutty yet no one at the table had seemed to notice. Not even her date! She wanted to just go home, crawl under her duvet and watch a sappy movie.

Gore Vidal once said, “Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies.”

Most of us go through a period of envy at the progress of others, friends and foes alike. It is not the most virtous place to be, but we are after still only human. Usually, that envy comes from a place of discontent, a perspective which sees only what is missing and not what isn’t.

Contentment was such an important issue, God made it one of the ten commandments. “Thou shalt not covet…” meaning, don’t even think about it, don’t want what you don’t have, don’t lust after what the other person has that you do not, just don’t!

Discontentment and grattitude cannot live in the same heart. Neither can it coexist with Faith. So in the next moment when those little green monsters start whispering in your ear, realize that you are about to stop pleasing God, in that moment, you are about to stop trusting in His plan, His timing and His will for you. Replace those thoughts with positive ones.

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.” Phillipians 4:8 MSG

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